As you may or may not know, I'm not exactly the person who has a lot of experience in the romance department. On the other hand, do I listen to all my friend's crazy stories and learn a lot from them.
One day, two of my friends (S and L) and I were sitting around for coffee and the topic of virginity was brought up. The three of us were all virgins. S and I agreed that it would be nice to have it be with someone who's also just inexperienced. Our reason was that we wouldn't be as embarrassed because the guy wouldn't know what do as well. Another reason is that, we felt that if he was still a virgin he could be more caring and not only think about himself. Not saying that all experienced guys are be jerks. L disagreed, she wants an experience man because he'll know what to do when the time comes. L is also complaining that she's still a virgin. She feels the next big step for her is to loose it.
My best friend (J) was like L. She wanted to get it over with and with an experienced man. She chose the wrong one. He wasn't gentle with her at all. All he cared about was pleasuring himself and went too hard and too fast for her first time. The next day, she could barely walk and she bled for two days. Another friend (M) found out that J lost her virginity and she wanted to loose it right away. J told her that she wasn't ready for it. She told M that she knew her, and that she needed it to be with a man she loved or else she would regret it. M got really mad at her. In truth, M wanted it because she was jealous that J did something before she did. She wanted the spotlight for herself. I never knew if M ended up loosing it, we lost contact long ago.
I'm still not looking to loose that yet. I know myself, and I know that it needs to be with someone special. Be it a man who's experienced or in experienced. There is a wild side in me that wants to run free and do crazy things, but I shut her up because I couldn't live with the disappointment in myself later on.
What about you? Was your first time something as miserable as J's? Or something more than that?
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I'm still a virgin too, and i really want to wait to be with someone who truly cares about me and it would be a real relationship. I know how u feel, sometimes i want to do crazy things. Sometimes i do though, but i haven't gone as far as having sex cuz i know it would be too much for me if the guy i was with didn't care about me and didn't want anything to do with me. One of my friends told me she slept with a guy at a party and she regrets it and feels bad everytime she sees him and he doesn't even acknowledge her. I would never want to feel that way, and most of the time, that's usually how it goes if u have sex with someone u just met. It sucks though!!! cuz i want to meet sometone but it seems so hard. I'm in college and i'm sort of upset i havent slepped with someone yet cuz most college students have aready but i guess its worth the wait... and yea its easy to get a guy, but not one who wants to date.....
@chicagogirl - Yeah, a lot of people who loose it to random guys/girls, they later end up regretting. Some even regret it if it wasn't with the person they are now. I actually go a lot of responses from an older blog of college kids still unexperienced, or even still virgins. Guess they are not as rare as one thought. Give it time, guys are going wild now, but they'll be soon to settle down.